February 20, 2024

I had always thought that it was unfair of people to assume that a mother should or can not have a career. In fact, I have been in a conversation where a fellow lady subtly scolded me on why I did not exclusively breastfeed my baby for six (6) months and when I tried to explain to her that I had to return to work at the end of the three (3) months maternity leave hence, I introduced formula to his feeding routine, she gave me a LOOK. I felt horrible.
I thought to myself, ‘am I selfish? Is my career more important than my baby? Couldn’t I just suspend work for one year, nourish my baby well and return thereafter?

These questions are not me being ‘over dramatic’. There are valid concerns. Many mothers have thought about one or all of them at some point in their motherhood journey.
But here is the catch!

You can be an exceptional mother and an exceptional professional, all you need is to find that balance. I will share some tips on how to create this balance:


Get domestic staff, engage creches, and receive help from family and friends. Please vet all these options- physically and spiritually before you apply them.


You are not too introverted to have meaningful relationships. Build healthy relationships as you progress in your career. These are the relationships that you will leverage on to provide the necessary support you will need in balancing motherhood and career. I am not saying you should take advantage of people oh.


Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways, acknowledge him and he shall direct your path.’ (Proverbs 3:5-6)

These are just my thoughts. Please feel free to join the conversation.


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  1. I can totally relate to this, how people could be so judgmental of working mums… and still complain about stay at home moms…
    My thought is, do what you feel is best for you and your child… people will always have opinions.

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